Using flirtatious humour
The first thing to do in constructing an online swinger dating profile is to create an easy to remember user name that is also catchy. Look at a few other profiles and you will soon notice that far too many are pretty mundane and unoriginal. You need to make yours different in an easy-to-remember way so that it stands out from the crowd.
In face to face encounters, an irresistible smile and flirtatious playfulness are the main things that attract swingers to one another. Online communication works in exactly the same way and profiles written with this in mind will be the ones that attract people. Just as nobody wants to date or swing with people who are dull and serious most of the time; nobody wants to read online dating profiles that are dull and lacking humour.
Describe the swingers you want to meet
Consider in detail the kind of swingers you want to meet and then describe them in your profile. This doesn’t mean that you have to get really choosy. The danger of being too selective is that you’ll end up excluding people who you might otherwise have enjoyed some really good swinging with. For example, if you are a single male with a profile specifying that you are only interested in meeting single females, you are going to miss out some sensational threesomes with couples who would have also proved to be the most likely source of introductions to the swinger party scene for you.
Be especially careful not to make a list of your dislikes. Profiles that do are a big turn off to everyone who reads them and not just the people who the list is aimed at.
Include your swinger lifestyle experiences
It is important to include your swinger lifestyle experiences in your online profile but the worst thing you can do is to claim experiences you have never had or make wild exaggerations. Profiles that invent or exaggerate experiences are usually quite easy to see through but even when they are believed, others will expect you to live up to the experience described and fictitious claims have a nasty habit of falling apart at face-to-face meetings.
Even if haven’t had any experience of the lifestyle, it is better to say so than to say nothing. There are actually a lot of swingers who are attracted to the idea of having sex with a complete lifestyle novice. Every swinger was a newbie at some point!
Include sexual fantasies too
Swingers want to hear about your sexual fantasies as well as your real-life experiences, so make sure you include some in your online profile. Apart from ensuring the exclusion of any fantasy that might be suggestive of illegal sexual acts, the only note of caution here is to leave out any that might generally be regarded as distasteful within the swinger lifestyle community.
Read before you publish
Before you publish an online swinger dating profile, take some time to consider it from the reader’s viewpoint. Imagine you are the reader – a person (or couple) who has never met you. Ask yourself how that person might picture you. Do you come across as self confident, arrogant or reserved. Do you picture a playful, flippant, dull or serious person. Do you sound honest, insincere or untrustworthy etc?
The essential photograph
Online profiles that don’t have photographs rarely attract anyone’s interest so it is essential that you include one. Be sure to get a good full face and body shot and at all costs avoid smutty, distasteful images. It never fails to amaze me that many males seem to believe that a close up image of their penis is the kind of profile photograph that will attract females. Derision and ridicule are about all such distasteful photos ever receive.
Swinger couple profiles
Swinger couples create joint online profiles. The ideal is to project an image of a happy couple who are going to be fun to be with. It is essential that couples create their profiles together as a couple and it is a great idea to have fun whilst they are creating it. Compiling a profile whilst participating in sexual foreplay can be a real turn on, which is likely to be conveyed when the profile is subsequently read.
It is a good idea to feature private bedroom adventures as well as your experiences as swingers. Write about your relationship with each other and explain how and why you decided to get into the swinger lifestyle. This is exactly what other couples want to read about when looking for swing partners.
As with singles, it is essential for swinger couple profiles to include photographs and these should ideally be of both partners. If only one partner photograph is included, ensure that it is one of the female partner. Couple profiles that feature a photograph of the male partner only never attract many positive responses. Most people viewing such a profile will draw the conclusion that if the female even exists at all, she is likely to be a passive or unwilling participant in the swinger relationship!
A special note for single men
Single males need to understand that most women (whether single or couple) who use swinger dating sites crave for adventure and excitement. Self confidence, masculinity, humour mixed with a degree of mystery are the kind of qualities the male profile needs to project to meet this craving. Coming across as the nice guy who they can meet everyday, isn’t the best way to attract such women.
Sometimes males using swinger dating sites may need to remind themselves that they are not looking for romance or mainstream dating, long-term-relationships. If your profile ends up suggesting this you may not get much of a response. On the other hand, it is also important not to stress the purely sexual side of things to the point where the profile sounds like crude, immature ranting.
Communicate your sex appeal in as natural a way as possible and avoid boasting about having incredible sexual stamina. Most women are more likely to consider a long staying repeater as a potential source of vaginal pain than a bringer of ecstatic pleasure.
Online profiles for swinger lifestyle females
Most of what has been said above applies in one form or another to single female online profiles. The main additional point to emphasise is that as a single female, your photo is going to be the first thing other swingers will look at. It is therefore essential that you get it right. Never use an old photo and don’t be afraid of overtly sexual, tarty or even explicit sexual shots. You are posing for swinger lifestyle contacts – not romantic LTRs! Dress (or undress) to thrill and only draw the line at those silly gynaecological close-ups that are sometimes seen in online swinger dating, female profiles.